- Therapy is an ethical choice, when understanding ourselves helps us reduce the harm we can do to others and our planet.
- We've learned to tune out in order to cope with the uncertainty and discomfort of life. Unfortunately that's cut us off from our senses and our ability to fully feel the “good” stuff too.
- Happiness is not a goal of therapy. Happiness is not a thing we can ultimately achieve. Aliveness is something we can strive towards and happiness will be in there along with everything else.
- It may be too much to imagine loving yourself. It may even be too much to imagine accepting yourself. First, you'll learn to tolerate yourself without needing to numb, push away, distract, suppress.
- We aren't meant to live in isolation. But a lot of us are scarred by our relationships - back when we were kids and also as adults. Finding a therapist you can learn to connect with is an essential part of healing. People will sometimes disappoint you and relationships of all kinds are hard. But you can't do it alone.
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FOOD & BODY IMAGE
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15 Min. phone consultation
This phone call is how we can discuss your needs in therapy and go over some basic questions to make sure we might be a good fit. If you are enquiring about couple or family therapy, I'll want to speak to each person involved.
50 Min. individual Session
Sessions are typically 50 minutes, weekly. We can discuss if it would be helpful to increase the length of the session or the frequency of meetings. Longer session are prorated at the hourly rate.
I don't contract with any insurance companies. However, if you have a PPO health plan, a health savings account, or medical reimbursement account through your employer, I can provide you with statements for reimbursement. I recommend you check with your insurer about "out-of-network" reimbursement.
I grew up being taught that making the world a better place was more important than anything. But along the way, I saw a lot of behavior that didn't line up with the message I was receiving verbally. It turns out, wanting to be a certain way isn't enough when we're dealing with generations of trauma, a society that alienates us in all kinds of ways, and interpersonal pain. Healing myself became an integral aspect of fighting to improve the world around me.
I now know that social and environmental justice won't happen unless we learn to love ourselves enough to challenge ourselves in sustainable ways. I bring this lens to my work as a therapist. I believe the personal is political and vice versa. I believe looking inward is an important part of the fight for justice everywhere.
I split my time between my private practice and hosting my podcast, A Therapist Walks Into a Bar, and a weekly live advice show on BFF.fm called Radical Advice. In the past, I've been a regular contributor to Psyched in San Francisco Magazine, Huffington Post and occasionally elsewhere in internet land.
If you would like schedule a FREE 15 minute phone consultation or have any questions, please use the form below to send me a message. I typically respond within 24 hours except on the weekends.